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I can understand why people are automatically turned off by the mere idea of a long-distance relationship; the thought of having cities, states, countries, or even continents wedged between you and your partner — not to mention the often-ridiculous time zone discrepancies — is enough to make anyone's stomach turn.
I moved to America in 2012, three years into my relationship with my current boyfriend. We were both very young; I was 19, and he was 20. Suddenly, we were 7,000 miles apart and we had no idea what we had gotten ourselves into.
At first, we had the "We got this!" mindset. That went away quickly as soon as reality set in, and soon the daily lovey-dovey Skype calls turned into fights, the air of uncertainty never seemed to falter, and resentments started creeping in.
But we were able to salvage our relationship when we both sat down, put our differences aside, and actually communicated. We realized what we meant to each other, and because we were in it for the long haul, we decided that we were both willing to put in the work.
Now that we're hitting our nine-year mark, I guess it's safe to say that we're thriving.
I wish I could tell you that there is an easy way out, a secret sauce, but there isn't. It takes so much work — work that can be physically, emotionally, and mentally harrowing at times — but it's nothing you can't handle if you both decide that your love is far greater than what you have to endure.
I'm not in any way qualified to be preaching Dr. Phil-esque love advice, but here are some tips I've learned over the course of my own relationship that just might make your own long-distance situation such a little bit less.